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In the early days of a romance, you can’t keep your hands off each other and you feel like you’ll never get enough. But after being together for a while, you may find yourself feeling meh about sex and it happens to a lot of us. The thing is, there’s no “normal” sex drive, as it varies from person to person and changes throughout your life.
Libido is affected by a combination of biological, psychological and social factors and if yours is low, there are things you can do to increase it. This is what experts recommend to get your engine revving the way it used to:
- Get checked up - To make sure there’s no medical issue or medication that’s messing with your sex drive, start with a medical checkup.
- Make healthier lifestyle choices - Drinking alcohol and smoking can have a negative impact on your libido, so can exercising too much or too little, and not getting enough quality sleep.
- Manage stress and anxiety - These both increase levels of cortisol, a stress hormone, which can lower your libido.
- Discover your desire style - There are two types: spontaneous and responsive. Spontaneous desire is what we see in movies and shows, where someone feels a need for sex and their body responds quickly, like they can just flip a switch to turn it on. Those with responsive desire need physical arousal first, then they experience the emotional and mental wanting of sex. They may not initiate sex as often, but they get into it when it’s happening.
- Figure out your turn ons and turn offs - If you don’t know what gets you hot and bothered, how can you communicate it to your partner?
- Explore erotic content - To help you learn what turns you on and get sex on the brain, check out some X-rated videos and books.
- Work on your emotional connection - If you feel loved and cared for by your partner, you’re more likely to feel safe, secure and ready for sex.
- Let go of expectations - Forget what you think you “should” be doing and just try to connect with your partner. Putting pressure on yourself or your partner won’t help you enjoy the experience.
Read the article at Women's Health