What do you do when you realize you’re falling for your friend who doesn’t see you romantically? It’s tricky, especially if you’re worried about ruining your friendship. But Tina Wilson, a relationship expert who founded the dating app Wingman, has a step-by-step guide to moving out of the friend zone for good.
- Step 1: Remind your friend why you’re perfect for each other. The key to doing this, according to Wilson, is to focus on yourself. Happiness and self-confidence are attractive, so do what makes you happy and your friend will see it shine through.
- Step 2: Focus on your chemistry together. You already have a connection to this person, so highlight the positives and build on your bond. Plan some exciting activities together and give them plenty of eye contact and touch them on the shoulder or hand to release oxytocin, the “love hormone” that makes people feel more attached to their partner.
- Step 3: Be honest. You don’t want to “make a move” and find out that your friend doesn’t share your feelings because that’s not only awkward, it can ruin a friendship. Timing is everything when you declare your feelings, so choose your moment wisely.
- Step 4: Be true to yourself. Wilson warns against changing yourself to try to get your friend to realize they want to be with you. Trying too hard won’t win them over and if you’re not being true to who you are, it won’t work out anyway.
- Step 5: Acceptance. When you go down the path of trying to get out of the friend zone, you have to prepare yourself for the possibility that your friend won’t share your romantic feelings. Putting it all out there is scary and intimidating, but if the worst case scenario plays out, the way you handle the rejection is important. Try to show your friend you accept their decision and remember that if you’re not right for each other, the right person for you is still out there.
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