Ways To Approach Single Women Without Being Creepy

Now that Pumpkin Spice Lattes are back at Starbucks and football season is kicking off, cuffing season is not far off. That means it’s time to start finding your person if you don’t want to hibernate alone, but some folks need some pointers and Reddit is here to help.

A post asks “Single women of Reddit, what’s the best way to approach you without coming off as creepy?” and these are some of the top responses to help you make a connection without looking like a desperate loser.

• “Creepy = making the interaction sexualized from the start”
• “Be friendly, not flirty to start. One good rule of thumb - if you wouldn't be comfortable saying the same thing to a man you've never met before, then don't say it to a woman.”
• “When giving compliments, focus on things we have control over vs the things we don't. A compliment on my hairstyle or my makeup or the t-shirt I'm wearing will always be more welcome than a comment on the size or shape of my body.”
• “Time and place is the biggest one. Headphones are a universal symbol of ‘I don’t want to be bothered right now’. If I’m actively dancing with my friends, yelling in my ear on the dance floor is not the place. If I’m walking through a desolate park, I will feel alarmed to have a man I don’t know approach me.”
• “Step 1: Make eye contact. If she reciprocates, proceed; if she avoids your eyes or turns away, abort mission.”
• “Best advice I can give is be in the right place. Anywhere a woman HAS to be (bus stop, waiting room, in line, out doing chores like grocery shopping, etc...) leave her alone or read the room real quick.”
• “Women are just people. Approach them like people. Make small talk. If you’re at an event/party/bar talk about that. Don’t overthink it, just…start a conversation like you would with anybody. And if that goes well, ask for her number.”
• “Do you have a boyfriend?” should not be the first words out of your mouth.”

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